How To Have Unwavering Confidence
I see you out here DOING WORK to make your dreams a reality! Launching a business is hard but also one of the most rewarding things you will ever do. You have a special opportunity that not many people choose, you get to define what success looks like to YOU. You get to write the rules of your life by creating the structures and the principles by which you live and work and create. Everything I just described, like the writing of the rules, and defining success on your terms takes doing the inner work of confidence and moving through the discomfort of being visible. THIS is actually the “hard part” not the designing of the website, not the selling of a program….the building up of an unshakable belief in yourself. This whole “boss babe” life and attracting your ideal clients is ALL about doing the inner work so that you are fearless in your pursuit of success.
Step 1 - A belief in something other than yourself
Call it whatever in the heck you want. I don’t care what you call it; Energy, God, Allah, Source, Universe, Fate. Whatever you call it, it’s all the same. There are going to be so. many. moments. in which you will question everything you are doing and wonder if you are the stupidest or craziest person for even trying to do this entrepreneurial journey. In those moments you need to know you can call upon a force outside of yourself to know that you are on the right path. If the dream is in you, it is FOR you. It’s not by accident.
Step 2 - Full time faith, in YOU
In my experience this comes after the above, faith in something bigger. What this looks like in real world application is: you have massive doubt and you feel like a fraud. You probably have a paralyzing fear of failure BUT you say to yourself “I’m betting on me. I CHOOSE me.” And you repeat this to yourself over and over and over while you doing the thing that scares the shit out of you. If you do this, somehow, you always make it through. I don’t know how it works but it does. Trust this step.
Step 3 - Fail: fail fast, fail hard, fail often
I knooooowwwwww, this is the worst. You might be thinking “how in the heck is failing supposed to help me build confidence?!” I have two thoughts on this. The first is that failure is a part of the process. There’s no escaping it so the sooner you accept it the better off you’ll be. It’s like being on a health journey and knowing you have to wake up at 5 am instead of 7 am to workout. You have two choices. You can moan and groan and dread having to wake up 2 hours early, which will inevitably lead to you quitting on your early morning workouts. Or you can simply accept that this is the way things are and get out of bed because there’s no other option. Let’s say you had a child who needed to go to the hospital early in the morning would you moan and groan about having to get up and drive there or would you just do it because there was no other option? You would do it, of course you would. It’s the same with going to the gym and it’s the same with failure. There is no other option, it is going to happen no matter what so accept it and start moving towards success. Be brave, try something fail, experiment, gather data, then try something else. This builds confidence because when you try and fail you learn that it’s not so bad. The world didn’t end, you are still here, and you can keep going. Kind of like falling off your bike for the first time, you didn’t die so keep riding.
Imagine for a moment that you were able to have this type of confidence. They see you experimenting and putting yourself out there...they think “How do I get that kind of confidence? How do I be more like her?” and that’s when they want to work with YOU. So in reality these steps to gain confidence are intertwined in the strategy to attract your dream clients, you cannot have one without the other.
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With love and moxie,